Nurturing the Nature of Children who are Bitten by the Bug of Learning
The picture on the left was taken in Lisbon, Portugal at a children's playground... I love how the beautiful colors and shapes invite the children to explore...
The one on the right, was taken in Porto, Portugal... The shapes remind me of the geometric solids that are used to teach children geometry in Montessori...
“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” ~ Angela Schwindt
Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning
Children are naturally curious about the world around them and that's why they are always eager to explore, discover, and learn how it works. However, today there are ample amount of studies that show around 40 percent of high school students in the U.S. are not at all inclined to continue their school as learning does not "interest" them anymore.
So, what went wrong? How did their natural curious mindset transform to a passive disinterested one, when it came to sustaining their love for learning throughout their lives?
Well… the answer lies in parenting and many research papers have established a direct link between your child becoming the next Einstein and your parenting technique.
If we think of a child, who instead of creating a mess around the house, puts his time into mixing colors and creating new ones – as parents this behavior draws immense satisfaction. Again, when a child is not rummaging through his bag of toys, but is sitting content with a book in hand, as parents this could be highly fascinating.
Now, if the same child fetches great scores in exams and tests, then there is simply nothing like it and as parents, you should take pride in that. All these scenarios are perfect recipes for "the smart kid in the block" but more often than not, it does not happen like that and very few young minds exhibit their intrinsic love to learn new things from a very young age.
If you have children who do not cry for an expensive toy, but instead get busy with a cardboard box trying to turn it into an airplane or get highly curious by seeing the birds coming at the same spot in the yard every evening, or their curiosity clings to the twinkling stars of the night sky, you do not need self-help books or survey results to raise that child, but all you need is a shift in the parenting attitude.
No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship
Children are natural learners and therefore, early experiences play a vital role in shaping their abilities and thought patterns, right from the formative years of brain development. As parents, this is your ideal time to foster a strong love for learning in them by simply playing with them, communicating with them, learning their unique interests, and ultimately using their interests to encourage their curious streak.
This is not just the best possible way, but also the best possible time, since there is no pressure of report cards and burdens of good marks. Instead, it is the time to focus strictly on their interests and curiosities, rather than paying attention to their talents and potential.
The moment you try to look for your child’s one-of-a-kind talent or skill, you limit their growth and idiosyncrasy. You try to shape the world around them just because they have revealed an area of interest to you.
For example, it’s only natural to have an explosion of glitter bombs in your heart when you find your child’s early interest in painting. However, that does not imply you will suffocate them with questions of paints, books of painting, crayons, colors, and canvases; you might think you are fueling your child’s intrinsic abilities; to your surprise, this would be highly counterproductive.
Let the child be the scriptwriter, the director, and the actor in his own play
You need to understand as parents, that your child’s world is still developing and is full of interesting activities. If today, it’s about the beautiful colors, tomorrow it could very well be about a deadly dinosaur. So, as parents, you need to keep on fueling their interests and curiosity rather than trying to confine them to limited options.
The key is, to not guide them in one particular direction, but let them sail freely by nurturing all their interests. In doing so, whatever your child does – be it painting, reading, or exploring nature; does not turn into an obligation or a boring chore, but stays absorbing.
If you allow your children to express themselves or show their natural curiosities, as parents you will be doing your best to captivate that young mind. There is nothing to worry about if your child is not intrigued by the things that most other children of his age find interesting.
There are many phases of learning when it comes to a young mind – for example, if your child is fascinated with the stars, moon, and sun for the last couple of weeks, the next month could be all about action figures and battles. So, if you put too much focus on astronomy and think your child could be the next Neil Armstrong, then seeing him playing with action figures the next month could seriously put your child’s future in jeopardy – at least in your eyes.
Now, if you try to pull them back to the milky way, naturally and surely, they will lose interest. So, you need to care for your child’s learning pragmatically, rather than being pragmatic about it.
You cannot make people learn. You can only provide the right conditions for learning to happen
If you want to sow the seeds of learning into your child’s brain, never restrict them in their learning process. Instead, you could share your stories, passion, or even information about the subject that your child is currently showing interest in.
For example, if they show a readiness to read books, make sure every room and corner of your house has a causal piece of reading material in it. Whether it’s a book on the kitchen counter or magazines in the car, it will attach a feeling of ‘normality’ to the books, and your child will automatically imbibe the habit of reading and understand that it’s not restricted to just bedtimes.
When you see your child taking a book on their own and reading, it’s good to discuss the story and the characters, but do not put pressure on them with philosophical questions like, ‘tell me what did you learn from the story.’
Your young child is still forming their perception; so, it’s always better to encourage their judgments and decisions rather than barging inside their mind with your logical understanding. Of course, you can step in when something isn’t rightly interpreted, but still, try to make your point in a way that becomes understandable to your child in their context.
As grownups, it can be challenging to mold your mindset and think as a 5-year-old; especially when there is so much stress and so few free minutes in our hands. It’s only natural as parents to worry about your child’s future, think about what’s ahead, and prepare your child likewise but that does not mean, that, when she is a toddler you are thinking about preschools and when she’s a preschooler you are thinking about kindergartens.
Learning to teach with Hypnosis
What’s the solution then? Well… all you need are the tools of Hypnosis!
Hypnosis will help you raise children, who feel sheer joy simply by learning. It will help you to bring a change in attitude that does not get overly worried about the outcome, but enjoys every bit of the developmental process.
As parents, whenever you put too much focus on your child’s accomplishments, your tension for the future turns to unnecessary pressure for your child, in the present. Hypnosis will guide you on the processes, which you can follow to take an interest in things that your child is getting excited to do, rather than getting fixated on the execution.
Hypnosis provides a simple and practical guidebook to parents, whose children display a readiness for learning. Whether it’s a math problem or an elaborate jigsaw puzzle, Hypnosis will tell you exactly when to show your support and when to stay away from your child and allow them to figure out their ways.
It’s important to understand that, every child has a pace of his/her own to learn new things. Whether it’s a formation of a new idea, concept, or imagination, your child needs time to accumulate and assimilate all the information. Hypnosis provides you with the ability to understand this context and ultimately empowers you with solutions adjusted to your child's individuality.
More than you pointing the direction, Hypnosis allows you to get rid of the typical parenting stereotypes that exist in your brain. In this way, you will enable your children to show you their natural interests and all you need to do, is clear the obstacles in that path of interest.
There is a stark difference between how adults treat setbacks and how a young child looks at his engineered aircraft failing to take flight. Hypnosis highlights the nuances in this observation and provides parents with a clear perspective on viewing and judging failures. It can help you, as well as your child, in developing a growth mindset that reflects – there are no failures; only situations of learning and progressing.
So, you need to be the sea, the ship, the crew, and the sails of your child’s learning curve, and let your explorer children be the sailor of their dreams.
“Children come into the world exquisitely designed, and strongly motivated, to educate themselves. They don’t need to be forced to learn; in fact, coercion undermines their natural desire to learn.” ~ Peter Gray
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